I have an interesting conversation that happens often when people get to know me.

They know I do well under pressure with deadlines, they know that I can handle any work that comes my way, and they know I have lots of connections to people that I can refer them to for anything they need.

I am very knowledgeable in various fields so when I am coaching a client or writing copy, I can help in many different aspects.

What I get asked about often is how I stay so calm.  This has been a question that I have been asked for years whenever there has been a serious situation in my life.

I also get told often “I don’t know how you do it.  I would worry all the time.”  This statement usually comes after someone learns that my husband is in law enforcement and my son is a firefighter.

So, let me answer those two things here.

First, I was not always calm.  I used to get very stressed out but over the years I learned about meditation, universal laws, and many ways of calming yourself down in any situation.  I studied them intensely, I implemented and kept practicing them and now, even if I am stressed you usually won’t be able to tell because I can shift my energy and calm myself down in a matter of minutes.  This is how I am able to problem solve and look at situations in new ways so that they are resolved quickly. This is how I can make needed decisions with a clear head when I have to also.

Second, I don’t worry about things I can’t control.  When you live a life like I do you would go crazy if you worried all the time.  I choose to focus on the positive. I anticipate that things will be OK and that my husband and my son will be safe. Worrying doesn’t help anyone so I don’t spend my time in that space.

Are you spending time worrying about things you can’t control?  Is there something in your business or personal life that you are constantly thinking about and stressing over?

Just a few ways you can start to calm yourself are:

Meditation – this has been a game changer.  I do guided meditations which I find work best for me.  The music in the background and the guiding words help me to stay focused and to feel better and more connected when I am meditating.  Find that way that works best for you.

Breathing – Try the 5-5-7 breath when you are anxious.  Breath in deeply to the count of 5, hold for the count of 5 and exhale fully to the count of 7.  This will help you get your emotions and your nervous system back under control.

Movement – I find that I get a real clear head when I am in nature so I try to spend as much time as I can outside.  It may be a walk at the park with one of my dogs, gardening when the weather is nice or just enjoying my coffee on the porch first thing in the morning and watching the birds.

I hope these help you to lesson your anxiety and feel calmer.  If you would like some additional support feel free to reach out.  If I can’t help you myself I know I will have someone in my network that can.